Get me home

I used to live in downtown Minneanapolis, right near Loring Park. I worked at a great store at the Mall of America. Many times I would take the cheap light rail instead of driving my car. Driving was it's own ordeal that caused me a lot of grief - mainly in finding a parking spot by my house that was 1. in an ok part of town and 2. closer to my place than the light rail. Here is a summary of how getting home went for me.

At work we were encoruaged to dress cute and so I often wore skirts and low heels. While at the store I was often hit on by guys who used lines like "Man, I have to tell you, redheads really get it going for me," while they have me pick out earrings for their girlfriends. I had more than one man follow me out of the store on my break as I went and grabbed lunch. And I just bit my toungue and moved on with my day.

When the store closed I would enjoy the empty time while I straightened, blasting Mika and dancing as I put products back and then rush to the bathroom to change from my skirt and heels to a pair of jeans and my sneaks. I would shove my fancy clothes into a bag and walk out of the backdoor into the back alleys of the Mall with my fellow coworker (who was almost always a lady as we only had one male employee).

After saying goodbye I would race to the basement to catch the light rail. Once inside I would try my best not to look anyone in the eye yet still look like I was aware of my surroundings and usually would try to read a little. Before I got off at my stop I would make sure my red hair was back in a tight bun and shoved into a baseball hat. My mother had me carrying one everywhere, especially when I was driving alone at night.

I had a long walk down a pretty empty street. I pasted Mary Tyler Moore's Statue hoping that the other people getting off of the light rail would branch off and not walk close to me. If there were too many (and frankly sometimes one could be too many) people near me I would cross the street. My keys sticking out from my fist and a permanet snarl on my face I stomped home as fast as I could.

Closer to my apartment, I had to decide whether to go down the well lit street that was home to cheap pawn shops that were chained up and super sketchy, or the not well lit street that was home to more upscale apartments. I never figured out which street felt safer because neither did.

At my building, I rushed into my apartment and locked and deadbolted the door. I checked to make sure the locks were on the windows that overlooked a very popular dumpster that homeless men frequented. I usually went straight bed and curled up hoping that the customer who had been bothering me about how my skirt made my shape look good would not be back anytime soon.

My mom came up once and wanted me to get a gun or pepper spray, but I never have had either.

This post was inspired by this article from Rookie: First Encounters with the Male Gaze

This article on rape culture is also worth a read: Rape Culture 101

Also, MN people, please, please think about taking part in this weekend's Twin Cities SlutWalk.

Critters around the apartment

Just wanted to do a little fun post about a few of the critters that dwell in my place.  Hope you enjoy!

 

Bartlybee is the little owl that perches atop of my favorite bookcase with his monster friend Maurice. Bartlybee was given to me for my birthday this past year by my youngest brother. He painted it all white himself. Maurice is a little sock critter a friend made for me that used to be my cat Jack's plaything. I found him in a box a bit ago and Taft did not seem that into him, so Maurice has retired to a quiet life of judging me for not reading all of the books in the bookcase.

 

These two chickens are some of the few last remaining pieces of my once glorious chicken collection. In high school I got the nickname chicken for telling tall-tales that often involved fowl. My favorite was telling my mom that a man brought a chicken into ShopKo in order to find baby clothes for it. The chicken bowl my dad found for me at a garage sale and the tall majestic rooster is from (I think) my dad's travels to Norway. It is actually a whistle - you blow out of the chicken's tail which is rather interesting. 

 

Inside my fancy book case is the home of my girl, Nancy Pearl. She is one hell of a librarian (and author of all of those Book Lust books) and was given to me by my sweet friend Megan on Christmas. I did a brief stint in library school and loved learning about some really great radical librarians.

And of course, Lando. Despite his proximity to Geoff's shaving accouterments, Lando has been with me for the past um forever. He used to have a more prominent place, but he has been treated unfairly.

I have many more little buddies around the place that make me feel more at home and give me something to smile about. I'll have to do a follow up piece with more of them. Until next time!

P.S. My favorite word ever is hidden in the blog post. Anyone want to guess what it is?